Chapter 5

Proverbs 5 (Joyce)

Proverbs 5 was written by Solomon to help us understand more deeply the choices we make in life. Part of the format for Proverbs as presented by Solomon is to touch the Ten Commandments and bring application to the reader. Proverbs 5 focuses on the seventh commandment:”Do not commit adultery”. God is crystal clear about His choice for married couples-husband and wife. They are to be fully committed to each other until death. All other choices are unacceptable. This chapter reiterates the importance of path choices and encourages each of us to be fully committed to our life partners. Singles are reminded to make choices that embrace this precept and follow it. Choices outside of this arena lead to death and Hell.

Matthew Henry’s commentary would remind us that “lawful marriage is a means God has appointed to keep from these destructive vices. But we are not properly united, except as we attend to God's word, seeking his direction and blessing, and acting with affection. Ever remember, that though secret sins may escape the eyes of our fellow-creatures, yet a man's ways are before the eyes of the Lord, who not only sees, but ponders all his goings. Those who are so foolish as to choose the way of sin, are justly left of God to themselves, to go on in the way to destruction.”

The direct tendency of this sin of adultery is to bring destruction to the body and soul. This is why God is so careful to give clear instruction about its explosive, destructive power. We must carefully avoid everything which may be a step towards it. This sin blasts the reputation; it wastes time; it ruins the home; it is destructive to one’s health; it will fill the mind with horror.

Over the years as David (my husband) and I have tried to support and counsel couples who have chosen this wrong path, the betrayal and destruction, without God, is impossible to overcome. He is the only way to restore and heal this wound of body and soul. Quite frankly, few Christians have been able to survive without incredible destruction and even though time has a way of healing, the same sin often reappears even years later to only bring more devastation and heartache.

David and I made a commitment to each other thirty years ago to be true to each other and no other. We have held to this commitment because we wanted to please God and show others that it was possible. It is a choice as is every decision made on this life’s path. We are no different than anyone else. Yes, there have been challenges, temptations, and forks in the path requiring choices on both of our parts. Yet, the commitment and the desire to have a marriage that is transparent and real has helped us forge through the times of question and not make decisions that were not in line with God’s word. You can do the same. Make the choice. Be committed and show the world that your path has been purposeful and God directed! Our commitment to each other and our strong desire to please God in this commitment has had a profound effect on many and I hope you will be encouraged today to hold on to your commitment with a determination that will show others it is possible!